It was the mid to late 90s when I was a teenager. I was wearing cargo pants and band t-shirts, listening to punk rock and watching Seinfeld. I was nerdy, rebellious and incredibly shy.

I wonder what you were like as a teenager?

If you have a moment now, as you sit at your desk, wait for the train or lounge on the couch, take a minute to reflect.

What was life like when you were 15 years old?
Who were the most important people in your life?
What was the general feeling you had about life?
What mattered to you?
What music were you into?
Who did you idolise?

Can you picture that time in your mind? Can you remember what it felt like?

Reflecting on your adolescence is usually just reserved for high school reunions and those moments when someone tags you in your year 10 photo on Facebook. But your youth doesn't just disappear when you turn 25, the legacy stays with you and shapes you in all sorts of ways - some obvious, some not so obvious.

I wonder how your adolescence has shaped you?

When we bring our life story out of the archives of our mind and into our awareness, we get the opportunity to decide which parts of our past (which beliefs, values, habits, behaviours etc) we want to carry forward with us, and which ones we choose to let go of or maybe just give a bit of a makeover.

Self reflection creates an opportunity for you to choose life, rather than life choosing you.

As someone who spends a lot of time with teenagers - maybe you also have a teenager(s) in your life? - I am constantly reminded how intense, weird and wonderful adolescence can be.

As adults it's not enough to just pay out on teenagers because they treat their phones like their life source or Facebook message their friends in the same room, we need to connect, support and encourage young people to step into the best version of themselves.

I wonder what support you needed as a teenager? Imagine if that was offered to you back then? What difference might that have made?

If you have a teenager(s) in your life, and find yourself
- At a loss as how to reach and connect with them
- Confused about when to step in and when to step back
- Unsure what steps you can take to promote their resilience
- Worried they are on a path to destruction, but don't know how to respond

Then I would love to support you to gain clarity and confidence to connect and engage with your teenager and to build a positive and lasting relationship.

Fostering Hope Psychology offers tailored support for parents, professionals, carers, aunties, uncles and anyone else with a teenager in their life, including:

- Workshops and presentations
- Group programs
- Individual and family therapy
- Professional supervision

Visit, call 0420 320 322 or send an email to to find out more about how I can support you to better support young people.

Your gentle reminder of the past,

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- Easy to understand information about adolescent brain development, and how you can apply that knowledge to support the teenager(s) in your life
- Practical steps you can implement right way to connect with your teenager, offer calm reassurance and build a stronger relationship
- Reflection questions that create opportunities for you to transform the stumbling blocks of adolescence into an opportunity for growth and learning
- Support from others on a similar journey
- Live Q&A calls with me
And much more!

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